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The Seven Benefits of Good Relationships at Work
You spend a lot of time at work. Life is short so why don’t you make the best of your time. Being able to enjoy your connections with those you work with makes a world of difference. Here are some of the benefits of good relationships at work.
The Enneagram an Excellent Tool
The Enneagram personality system helps you to get along better with your colleagues. It helps you to get to know yourself and understand others better.
When you come into the world, you naturally are given one of nine different ways to survive in the world. Both your genetic background and early life experiences influence the personality type you receive.
When you know what type you are, you begin to understand why you act the way you do. It also gives you clues as to what makes others tick. All this makes it possible for healthier relationships with your self and others. For more information on the Enneagram, please see last weeks blog.
Good Relationships Make a Difference
There are many reasons to have good relationships at work:
Feelings of Well-Being:
1. Building relationships with your colleagues enhance your feelings of well-being. You feel supported not only in your paid work but in your general welfare as a human being. You no longer have to divide your self between your personal and work life. You can be yourself in both places.
The Enneagram personality system helps you to become more present allowing you to be fully open at the moment. When you are open, you are better able to create healthier boundaries. Healthy boundaries enable you to be fully present to another person without having to give up your own needs.
Communication Makes the World Go Around:
2. Excellent communication makes your business more productive. Your ability to communicate with others increases as you build healthy relationships with those at work. The best way to talk with a colleague is by being fully open to their body language, emotions and what they have to say.
Communication is enhanced through working with the Enneagram. When you can see how different you see the world as compared to others, it opens the door to better understanding.
As you get healthier in all nine types, you have an excellent communication toolbox to get your message across in the most helpful way.
So much can get in the way of your people understanding you. The Enneagram shows you the places you tend to get stuck.
You begin to see your blind spots such as overcompensating for your lack of worth by focussing more on the needs of others and/or overly criticizing others for not completing tasks in the exact way you wanted.
A company that uses the Enneagram with staff and management helps your organization to get along with each other. Learning the nine fundamental ways to function in the world helps to create self-awareness. This is the first step to excellent communication.
The Power of Collegiality:
3. Collegiality is fundamental for a company to be productive, not only for staff getting along with each other but in relationships with your customers and clients.
For collegial relationships to be active and healthy, you need to move beyond your personality. The Enneagram points out where you get stuck in your habits. The Enneagram provides you a map to get out of your box.
When you are open to your three energy centers, through, personal development, space opens up in your relationships. Creating space allows for bridges to be built across diverse views. You make this happen by sharing skills, being open about your abilities, and expressing your creativity.
Collegiality at its best is like a dance where everybody knows how to move with each other bringing out your best.
Unmask Your Creativity:
4. Creativity is a misunderstood word. How creative do you believe you are? You and everyone else has an artistic side. Did someone in your life try to silence your artistic side?
The Enneagram points to the creativity in you and everyone else. You are naturally creative when you are open to experiencing the world through our bodies, emotions and quiet mind.
When you have a group of people feeling good and enjoying the comradery of your colleagues, you will have a natural desire and ability to be creative.
You will no longer view the world as dualistic. Problems that seemed insurmountable, you will find a new way to move ahead. You and your colleagues will be free to try new ideas and retry old ideas that in another time didn’t work or given a chance.
You and your company are going to move ahead with greater confidence and ease.
Investing in Mental Health:
5. Your physical, mental and spiritual health are vital to you and your organization. More and more companies are encouraging their employees like you to stay active and fit through providing access to gyms, yoga classes and other forms of group exercise.
Your spiritual well-being is congruent with the worth you connect with the work you do. Doing work that goes against your values will destroy you. You want people in your places of work that believe what you are doing is essential and adds value to the world.
The Enneagram is a great tool to help you find balance in your life. It helps you to see what is missing in your life and what you overindulge. It not only helps you to name what is not, in balance but gives you clues to find balance again.
The Power of Conflict:
6. Do you like conflict? You are probably like many who do not enjoy conflict unless you are one of the few people who thrive on it.
Conflict is prevalent in your life. You have conflict soon as you have a group of people with different points of view. In your diverse world, it is reasonable and healthy to have a difference of opinion.
As the Enneagram welcomes you into a non-dualistic word, many more solutions open up, especially when there are more two ways to resolve a conflict.
The Enneagram helps you to look at each situation with fresh eyes to see what is the best solution for the time.
Resolving conflict becomes a win-win solution which is good news for everyone!
Efficiency Comes from Healthy Relationships:
7. All businesses want to have efficient works. You are going to be the most efficient when you enjoy the benefit of good relationships at work.
If you have a bully for a boss, you might be efficient for a short time because of fearing your boss. But this will not last because unhappy, stressed out workers become less and less productive.
Bullied employees will get sick more often. Bullied employees will take more days off work because of stress and illness. Bullied employees take no pride or responsibility in the operation of the business. You will continually look for new employees as staff continues to leave for better work environments.
The Enneagram can help you, and your colleagues find ways to honor, support and respect each other. It will help you bring out the best in yourself and the rest of the staff and management.
The benefits of good relationships at work are many. A happy, meaningful and respectful work environment encourages healthy relationships between you and your colleagues.
When you are getting your needs met, you are going to be more relaxed, committed, creative and hard working.
If you see the value of the work you put into your job, you will treat your post as much more than a task to make money. If you are passionate about what you do you are going to work with high energy and dedication.
With the experience of knowing that conflict is positive, you will experience diverse opinions as a strength more than a curse.
You will find freedom in fully expressing your opinions, thoughts, theories, and ideas to your organization knowing they will be heard. There is no longer need to pick only one winner. The team becomes more important than the individual.
Most of all, you will enjoy being with the people who work with you. Going to work will no longer be drudgery, but something you look forward to each day. Going to work becomes fun and empowering.
Roland Legge offers Life Coaching through REL Consultants for individuals, and Executives to help them to be the best they can be. For more information, please arrange for a free 30-minute discovery call by phoning Roland at 1 306 620-7478 or book your appointment online Please click on “Discovery Call.”
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Four things to ask yourself while recovering from a mental health disorder. While researching I found four thought provoking questions: each question helps you to strengthen your mental health, your morals and your happiness.
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A Fascinating Overview of How the Enneagram Personality System Works
Seven years ago I began learning about the Enneagram Personality System. It has changed my life for the better. I am much more compassionate and forgiving of myself. I have a lot more patience and compassion to work with people who experience the world differently from me. I am a healthier and happier person. It has helped me so much I want to share it with others.
This is a story of how the Enneagram the Enneagram personality system works.
Ennea means nine, and gram means figure in Greek. So together it means a nine-pointed figure. What is its history? Here is a short synopsis:
The symbol dates back about 2500 years. The actual date of its beginning or where exactly it started is unknown. It is a coming together of the wisdom of many different spiritual traditions. Much of it has come from Christianity, Buddhism, Islam (especially Sufis) and Judaism.
Much of this spiritual wisdom, was forgotten for hundreds of years. In 1875 Gurdjieff re-discovered the symbol in his search for the knowledge of the esoteric religions of the past. He formed a group called Seekers After Truth. He and his friends traveled through Egypt, Afghanistan, Greece, Persia, and India.
Gurdjieff used the Enneagram as a tool to help his students to find their way in the world through dance and movement.
He explained that the Enneagram has three parts that represent the three central laws that describe divine law which governs all existence.
The circle represents unity, wholeness, and oneness and symbolizes that God is one (Hudson, 1999).
The next symbol is the triangle. In Christianity, this is referring to the Trinity of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit or in the Enneagram world, the Law of Three. This symbolism found in the Kabbalah, an esoteric teaching of Judaism. The ancient traditions do not see the world as a place of opposites but of non-duality. Hence the world is full of many hues of color rather than black and white (Hudson, 1999).
The third part is the hexad, referring to the Law of Seven. It demonstrates to us that nothing is static. Our world is continuously changing, recycling and evolving or de-evolving. The Periodic Table and the Western musical octave are all based on the Law of Seven (Hudson, 1999).
The modern Enneagram as we know it came to life in California in the 1970’s under Claudio Naranjo. Naranjo and many others since him have woven psychology into the Enneagram to bring it into the modern age. He used panels of each type as one way to teach the Enneagram.
Today the Enneagram teaches that when you are born into the world, your ego chooses one of the nine fundamental ways to survive in the world. These represent the nine Enneagram types. This is how the Enneagram personality system works.
You could not have survived without the ego type your inner self chose. No one knows why we choose the type we do. It is probably a mixture of genetics mixed with early life experiences.
Our personality can begin to get in the way when we become adults if we do not become aware of the limitations of our nature. When you are stuck in your personality, you are only using one-ninth of the tools given.
All the things you do without thinking are your personality speaking. When you begin to be aware of your limited pattern (type) talking, you then become open to responding in new and different ways.
I always say to my clients that when you can notice your personality acting out, you then have the option to respond in ways that are more appropriate for the situation in which you find yourself.
The Enneagram is like a map. It shows you when you are healthy, and not so healthy. It points you in the direction you need to go to get healthier. It warns you when you are getting stuck in old habits that no longer serve you.
When you look at most Enneagram images, you will see arrows pointing in the different directions of integration and stress (disintegration).
The Enneagram is never static. The health of your personality is never static. Each day you go up and down depending on how much stress you are experiencing.
There is movement on the Enneagram as you move to ether your integration point or your stress point.
The integration points you toward the functional aspects of another type when you are dealing with life well. When you are integrating, you are living beyond the trappings of your personality.
There is nothing wrong moving towards the stress type. The stress point is a safety valve. It prevents you from moving down to a lower level of health than you have ever been before.
Just to learn the types can be a fun thing to do. It can be a great party conversation. But it is only of use if you commit to learning through this tool through workshops, reading, reflection, counseling, and coaching.
The only person who can tell you who you are is yourself. For many people, it takes time to discern what type you are. It is easy to misidentify when you are not self-aware.
The Enneagram is no excuse to behave in a particular way. The gift of the Enneagram is that it points out to you the personality box in which you find yourself. A healthy person will develop strengths in all nine types. This is how the Enneagram personality system works.
Learning the Enneagram together with someone that knows you well such as your spouse can be a lot of fun. Your partner can help you to see who you are. When we are so close to ourselves, we can easily deceive ourselves into believing our desired image of our self when in reality people around us experience us differently.
The Enneagram teaching is an excellent tool for any group such as spouses, a whole family, congregation or business to learn how to get along better with each other. You begin to understand your differences because of how you see the world through your different lenses.
I expect at some time in your life you assumed that everyone thought the same as you did—until you got a rude awakening. We all have different ways of seeing and experiencing the world.
You will discover that most people don’t want to annoy you. They just see the world in different ways and have different priorities.
The nine Enneagram types divide into a triad of gut, heart, and head. These are our three energy centers. Your type suggests which one of these energy centers you either avoid or overuse. It just means this is where you are most comfortable but to be healthy, we need to keep all three of these wisdom centers open.
You can also use another triad of assertive, withdrawn and dutiful.
The assertive types of people move out into the world with force and conviction. They are a force to be taken seriously.
The withdrawn types when under stress like to withdraw into themselves to recharge. They are usually great observers of what is going on around them. They are easy to get along with.
The dutiful types when under stress feel responsible for taking care of everyone around them and making sure everyone stays safe. The dutiful types can often feel overly responsible.
The Enneagram is all about finding ways to live with as much presence as possible. Presence is the ability to stay open to the wisdom of your three energy centers: the gut, heart, and head.
The Enneagram is meant to help you move out of the fog of life. When you are stuck in your personality, it is easy to go to sleep to your true self. You live out your image of yourself without any self-awareness. Your life becomes more and more limited unless you find the courage to discover who you indeed are.
Using the Enneagram takes time and intentionality. It is a tool that will give you new things to learn each day no matter how old you are. It is no quick fix.
If someone claims you need fixing with the Enneagram, run away as quickly as you can. These teachers are dangerous!
I love the Enneagram! I hope it can help you as much as it has and continues to help me. I learned that being a type six explained why I had had lots of anxiety issues through my life. I have a lot more compassion for myself. I have learned how important meditation is for me to quiet my mind.
The Enneagram can change the world!
Learning that I am a type six has helped me to acknowledge my strengths such as my ability to look for problems before they become serious.
It has been a blessing in my relationship with my wife, Jen. She is a type five (the investigator). She thinks everything through before she says anything. She finds it difficult to express herself especially when she doesn’t feel that she has enough information.
I am the opposite. I think out loud. I learn through my conversations with others. We have had to learn much. I have learned to give Jen lots of time to think. She has learned that she needs to tell me what she is thinking, especially when it is a decision that affects both of us. We now laugh together instead of cursing each other.
I invite you to try out the Enneagram. It is a productive tool that reflects the complexity and holiness of each person. It shows you where you are right now and where you need to go to get healthier.
This fantastic tool helps you to find your true self or God self. The Enneagram shows you a way to be aware of your sensations that are full of wisdom. The Enneagram shows you a way to remain open to your emotions through your heart. This is how the Enneagram personality works.
You learn that your feelings shine the light on how you are experiencing the world in each moment. Then your mind, when quiet, helps you to connect with your intuition.
Please join me on this journey to new life. May it be full of surprises, wonder, and hope.
Roland Legge offers coaching through REL Consultants for individuals, couples, families, and executives to help them to be the best they can be. For more information, please arrange for a free 30-minute discovery call by phoning Roland at 1 306 620-7478, or you can email Roland at rolandlegge@relconsultants.com
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